Saturday, May 29, 2010

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Cold approaching requires immaculate game. But with the shortened margin for error, comes two clear-cut advantages; first, the entire process is compressed so you have less TIME and thus, OPPORTUNITY, to make an error in the first place. It's not that hard to keep yourself from digressing for 10 or 15 minutes. And second, while you may get blown out more often, there are far more opportunities at hand. Social circle game is limited to only the people you have access to, whereas a seasoned veteran in eskimo game can approach anyone that catches their interest. The first hurdles you'll pass regard more obvious mistakes, the ones that result from your conditioning. Maintaining Body language, a strong frame, and not coming off as supplicatory. The next few hurdles are far more subtle, and will require you to make precise incisions when analyzing your approaches. 3 common mistakes I see:

1. Asking closed ended questions. You rush yourself every time you approach because you're never truly 100% ready to approach. In the beginning stages when you're really FORCING yourself to approach, you recite questions that derive rote answers.

Instead of :"Hey do you where the nearest Starbucks is?"

Ask: "Hey I'm looking for a caf'e with a bougie environment, would you mind helping me out?" (Don't actually use the word bougie. Unless you can pull it off, then by all means, go forth).

Instead of: "Hey do you know what time it is?"

Ask: "Hey my phone just got stolen by a little Mexican kid, can you tell me what time it is?"

Instead of: "Hey can you take a picture of me and my giant buddah stick?"

Ask: "Hey you look like you'd be a good photographer, can you take a picture of yada yada yada?"

**You'd be surprised how many girls think they were born to be photographers, especially urban hipster chicks.

Like the above example, you can use loosely ended questions or questions with MORE than just a request for a specific title of information to either set it up for a quick cold read or future conversational straws. You can't be gasping for air bubbles in a cold approach, it must flow smoothly.

2. Escalating without plausible deniability.

Instead of: "Can I have your number?"

Ask: "I'm gonna "want to come with?" if she says yes, "k, give me ur number I'll text you"

Instead of: "Want to come over my place?"

Ask: "Wanna see my talking cat?"

On the other hand, you can skip p/d to quickly screen out unininterested chicks. You'll have to read the situation to see what it demands.

The DISADVANTAGE to doing this is getting caught up by accident with girls who were really only interested in going to the show, and not in you. You'll have to test for IOIs, maybe through bouncing or trying to escalate earlier.

3. ARTICULATE

Instead of: "mmmhmcanIhavmmmmummmyournumber?mmmhmm"

Ask: "Your number, Madame, if you will. I desire for us to exchange an endless number of orgasms on my ostrich skin sofa bed.

You'll see a lot of sets crash and burn because they go something like this:

Guy: "hey mmhmmjaja pizza mmmhmm fight outside hmmm?"

And then the girl goes: "Huh? Are you talking to me? What? What'd you say?"

You lose frame instantly, especially if you back-pedal or don't come re-establish. And if you can't speak clearly, you probably have both of those problems. You don't need to be extraordinarily eloquent; but unless you're scheming on a female Chewbacca, pronounce your words distinctly and with confidence.


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