0 You And Your Brain When Youre Dating Online

We all have expectations that things will go really well when we begin dating online. Let's face it-if you meet someone truly great, why wouldn't your imagination take over? It's not the smartest thing to do because when you crank up your expectations, it's usually a certainty that you are bound for disappointments. But it's difficult not to let your brain get carried away, especially when those endorphins start flowing.

Dating online has its pros and cons. The pros are obvious-meeting people you wouldn't normally meet from all walks of life, and having the opportunity to pick and choose who you would like to meet in person from the comfort of your own living room. The cons include meeting someone who is geographically undesirable, or meeting someone online who isn't who he says he is when you actually meet in person.

But let's assume for a moment, that you have met your perfect someone and all the ducks are in a row and everything is going smoothly. You're in the first stages of falling in love and suddenly your imagination gets the best of you and you start planning a wedding neither one of you have discussed. Obviously, you live in the real world and you're aware of the difference between fantasy and reality. But these thoughts can actually affect your behavior with your new love and can change the dynamic of your relationship.

Stay grounded! Take one step at a time and if you're letting your imagination run amuck, it's time for a reality check. It's hard not to write the script when you're hoping for a specific outcome. But the best thing to do is talk about these imaginary fantasies with a close friend. If you feel comfortable enough to discuss them with your partner, then you should do so, but remember you don't want to scare the guy off.

The best course of action is to be open and honest with each other regarding your future goals and dreams. Ask each other what each of you are hoping to find and what you ultimately want from a long-term relationship. Some people just want someone in their lives-it doesn't mean they want marriage or even living together. If one of you hopes to marry one day, and the other one is hoping to remain unmarried, but partnered, the two of you have some talking to do.

Just remember not to suddenly surprise your new guy with declarations of love and marriage when he may be thinking he's involved in a casual dating relationship. The bottom line is you want to be on the same page, and you won't know if you are unless you're able to communicate openly with one another. Before you know where you stand with this new love of yours, keep your feet firmly planted on the ground and don't let your imagination get the best of you.
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