NEUTRAL OPENERS
With these, you"re not conveying any sexual or romantic interest. You make an observation (about something she"s wearing, the book she's reading, etc), or ask her opinion on something, or get her to answer a question.
The key is to make it interesting. It should serve as a springboard to the conversation, and it should allow you to display your personality. If you're going to ask a question, make it a fun question. (Not, "So where do you work?") Neutral openers are most effective if you provide a reason why you felt compelled to say this to her. Notice that in the examples below, you're using the word "because" to link the opener to the reason.
COMPLIMENT OPENER:
"I really like that color/dress/necklace on you. I'd love to know where you bought it because I need to pick up a birthday gift for my friend Michelle. I bet she'd love something like that."
Note:
never pay a complement to a woman about her looks/beauty (everybody does that), complement her on something she is wearing or doing.
OPINION OPENER 1 :
"You girls look like experts...let me ask you a quick question. How long do you need to be dating a guy before you change the status on your Facebook page from "single" to "in a relationship?" Because my good friend Alice has been with a guy for about a month, and his Facebook page still says "single"...and she's not sure whether she should say something about it."
OPINION OPENER 2 :
"Let me ask you something real quick. My best friend's girlfriend tried to kiss me last night and to be honest it was extremely awkward. He's supposed to meet me here tonight and I don't know whether to say anything to him...would you?"
OPINION OPENER 3 :
"Wow, you have a nice sense of style. Let me ask you-my friend John asked me to go shopping with him tomorrow because he wants me to help him do a "fashion makeover." He was in a relationship for a long time and now he's single again and wants to get back out there and meet new people. So if you were going to take one of your guy friends shopping for clothes, where would you bring them?"
Note :
Notice that these openers referring to my friends It doesn't matter whether they exist! You can make it up ( it's not lying but flirting). Communicating value by letting the girl know that you are part of a social circle. You buy birthday gifts for them...You accompany them to do "fashion makeovers"...the point is, your friends count on you and you are there for them. This is a way for you to communicate your social value even when your friends aren"t with you!
QUESTION OPENER 1 :
"I have to ask you this because it's been bugging me all day-what"s the name of this song? (Sing the "hook" of some song that is super hot right now, or a classic 1980s pop song.)
QUESTION OPENER 2:
"Hey, you'd probably know the answer to this-let me ask you because my friend Mary is coming to town next week and she's in charge of her best friend's bachelorette party. She needs to know a really fun place for them to have a girl's night out. If you were in charge of the party, where would you bring everyone?"
Notes:
Neutral openers work best if you deliver them in an offhand, casual way-as if this thought just popped into your head. In other words, you don"t want it to seem like a premeditated opening line. Act likeyou're walking past the girl (or the group of girls), on your way somewhere else...and then pause and ask the question, facing them at an angle (or saying it over your shoulder). Once they answer and the conversation starts going, then Then turn and face them directly.
Question openers about relationships-specifically, jealousy and what constitutes cheating-work really well, because this is stuff women always have an opinion about. Ask one of these questions to a group of women, and often they will all chime in and you"ll spark an animated group discussion. Gold stuff mates..
SOME EXAMPLES :
- If you stand near a group of girls. take out your phone, pretending to check a text message and text something back. then turn to the girls and say,
"You girls would know the answer to this. Is my friend Mike wrong for getting mad at his girlfriend? Somehow she hacked into his Facebook account and found out he was emailing with his ex-girlfriend. Nothing bad, they were just keeping in touch, but she was really upset that they"re still talking to each other. And Mike was mad because he felt she violated his privacy. Honestly, if you could get into your boyfriend"s Facebook account, would you take a look around in there?" You can come up with endless variations on this same type of theme...
- "My best friend Mike has been seeing a girl for about a month and as far as he"s concerned, they"re boyfriend & girlfriend now...but in her Facebook account she"s still got like ten pictures of her and her ex-boyfriend...partying together, on vacation in Hawaii, making out, etc. Mike wants her to delete those pictures but he doesn"t want to say anything because she might get offended. So what"s the "rule" on having Facebook pictures with your ex? When you start a new relationship, should the "ex" pictures get deleted?"
- "Let me ask you something real quick. My friend Jen just texted me, and she"s pissed because she found a scrapbook under her boyfriend"s bed and it"s full of pictures of him and his ex-fianc'ee, and letters they sent each other, and all these little mementos of their relationship. This may sound funny, but she hates the idea that she"s been sleeping in his bed every night and right there underneath the bed is this scrapbook that"s all about his ex. Do you think she has the right to tell him to toss it in the garbage?"
If these sound a little too long-winded, try a shorter one:
-"Does kissing someone count as cheating?"
-"Would you let your boyfriend go to a bachelor party if you knew there were going to be strippers there?"
Women love this stuff!
FLIRT OPENERS
If you"re confident in your game, you can cut to the chase and express your sexual interest right away. There are two main advantages of using a Flirt Opener:
1) She's going to decide very quickly whether you"re someone she is interested in talking to. If she"s not interested for whatever reason (she could be about to go somewhere, or has a boyfriend), then she"s going to let you know. You won"t waste twenty minutes talking to her, only to have her then mention that she"s engaged to some douche bag. When you use a Flirt Opener, if she smiles and begins to interact with you, you know she has some level of sexual interest in you as well.
2) There"s no risk of you winding up in the "friend zone." She knows right away that you"re interested in her sexually. This is exciting to a woman-as long as she"s curious about getting to know you. Guys who are really good-looking can get away with using Flirt Openers constantly.
These openers work best if you"ve already made eye contact with her and exchanged a smile. Then the opener won't catch her totally by surprise. Flirt Openers can inject a powerful "spark" into the conversation right away, and they also demonstrate massive confidence (as long as your body language and tone of voice are congruent with what you say-never showing nervousness).
Examples of Flirt Openers:
"You are so cute, I had to come over here and see what your deal is."
"You have a cool sense of style-I have to tell you, you look amazing tonight."
"I can"t think of a good pickup line right now, but if I could, I"d use it on you. You look incredible in that dress."
"You look like you"d be really fun to talk to. I had to come over and say hello."
THE KEY TO USING A FLIRT OPENER IS TO THEN TRANSITION INTO A TOPIC OF CONVERSATION. ATTACH A QUESTION TO IT, OR ASK HER OPINION ON SOMETHING.
by Dean Cortez
EXCLUSIVE M.A.C.K TACTICS CONTENT
Credit: womanizer-psychology.blogspot.com
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